My First Podcast Interview

Don’t let the podcast’s original name dissuade you from listening. Though the venue ( may not be conducive to the content, the message is pure, and the delivery is authentic.

We discuss everything from pre-planning to legacy and even get into host Mischa Zvegintzov’s experience with dying, death, and what’s essential when saying goodbye to those we love.

Mischa and I go deep into unfamiliar territories

Mel and Frank’s Monthly Online Death Cafe 4th

Wednesday of Every Month 6:00-8:30 pm (PT)

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others have to offer on the subject? If so, please join Frank and me on the 4th Wednesday of every month from 6-8:30 pm (PT) for a virtual Death Cafe that explores all aspects of dying and death. All opinions and topics are welcome, with a short list of guidelines set that keep the discussions safe and accessible for everyone. To RSVP and receive the Zoom link, please contact me via text at (858) 256-6216, email at, or through the Death Cafe website at

Where To Start? Family AHD Form Filling Affair

Starting conversations around dying and death is simple, not easy. Very few people are comfortable talking with their loved ones about death when there is no need for urgency. Having an Advance Healthcare Directive (AHD) on hand gives your loved ones some direction when you can’t tell them yourself.

The BEST time to start the discussion over such complex issues, such as what kind of treatments you want and where you prefer to spend your last breath, is before your mortality confronts you with making hard decisions. It’s also important to ask yourself and your loved ones who can advocate for your wishes when you can’t advocate for yourself.

Compassion and Choices has FREE tools to help you navigate and record your options with your loved ones. As a Death Doula, I use their resources to help my clients get familiar with the myriad of options they have and may not have considered.

Everyone over the age of 18 can partake in filling out their very own Advance Health Directive as many times as they like. Having a baseline of your loved one’s wants and needs when they can’t make those choices for themselves is one of the last acts of love you can share.

Contact me to organize a “Family Form AHD Filling Affair” where we start the conversation that brings us closer to each other in a safe, comfortable, loving environment.