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SUMMARY:Virtual Terminal Talk
DESCRIPTION:Do you have a life-limiting diagnosis? Virtual Terminal Talk is a FREE group-led discussion inviting people living with a life-limiting diagnosis to join others in exploring the realities of dying and death. This supportive space encourages participants to share thoughts on the physical\, emotional\, and spiritual aspects of dying. While grief may naturally emerge\, Terminal Talk does not serve as a grief support group or cater to caregivers\, loved ones\, or the general public. \nAll diagnoses are welcome! Whether you’re living with ALS\, cancer\, heart failure\, or something else\, we want you to join our group. We are a friendly place and understand the loneliness that comes with trying to make sense of our fate. \nThe History of Terminal Talk\nTerminal Talk’s host\, Mel McClave\, was invited by Roseana Spangler-Sims to host “Terminal Talk: An Open Discussion on Dying for a Select Few.” Roseana yearned for a place where people living with an incurable diagnosis could come together to talk about their experience. In May 2025\, Mel hosted the first “Terminal Talk” in person at the Vista Senior Center. \nAlthough people wanted a virtual option\, Terminal Talk remained in-person until Roseana’s death in August 2025. Consequently\, Mel pivoted the in-person meeting into a virtual meeting on the same date and time. Mel learned how to host a group like Terminal Talk through her volunteer work as a Death Cafe host. \nThe Future\nSeven people joined the first meeting of the Virtual Terminal Talk. Considering the nature of this discussion group\, it’s important to invite all who qualify to participate. The bond we form transcends the limits of geography and time. \nIn 2026\, we expanded Terminal Talk to two meetings per month. We are blessed to spend 90 minutes together twice a month. \nWe need your support to help Terminal Talk continue to grow. Please share this free resource with anyone who qualifies or knows someone who qualifies. This is important as the founding members of the group succumb to their fate and are only present in spirit. \nJoin “Terminal Talk” – a free\, confidential group for those living with a life-limiting diagnosis to openly discuss the physical\, emotional\, and spiritual aspects of dying. \n\n\nExclusively for patients – not caregivers\, loved ones\, or the general public.
URL:https://lastactsoflove.com/event/virtual-terminal-talk-5/
LOCATION:Virtual Terminal Talk\, CA\, 92024\, United States
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SUMMARY:Solana Beach Death Cafe
DESCRIPTION:Join us for the first Solana Beach Death Cafe of 2026 on Wednesday\, February 25\, from 1-2:30 PM. We serve a light lunch along with deep conversations regarding dying and death. \nMore About the Solana Beach Death Cafe\nThe Solana Beach Death Cafe is formerly known as the “North County Coastal San Diego (NCCSD).” This in-person Death Cafe celebrated its second anniversary in August 2025. \nNo matter what it is called\, this Death Cafe is blessed to have many regular attendees who bring their curiosity and wisdom to the group. You will find us a most welcoming group who meets on the fourth Wednesday of every other month except December\, to enjoy fellowship and an assortment of complimentary sandwiches and beverages. We also provide a fresh fruit and vegetable tray and a rotating dessert choice. \nThe private clubhouse that sponsors the Solana Beach Death Cafe boasts an ocean view and a variety of small-group seating options. There is plenty of free parking\, too. \nDo you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts\, ask questions\, and hear what others say? \nAt this Death Cafe\, we welcome all opinions and topics\, provided they follow a few rules that keep the discussions safe and accessible. You are certainly welcome to join us for quality conversations around dying and death. \nWhat is a Death Cafe?\nThe purpose of this Death Cafe is “ to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their finite lives.” We use this time to discuss dying and death with no expectations\, agendas\, themes\, or promotions. \nDeath Cafes are a worldwide phenomenon.  Jon Underwood launched and hosted Death Cafes in London from 2011 until his death from cancer in 2017. He modeled them after Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz’s “Café Mortale.” In 2012\, Lizzy Miles hosted the first Death Cafe in the US in Columbus\, Ohio. \nDeath Cafes and DeathCafe.com are hosted by volunteers and are always FREE to attend.  The guidelines that govern Death Cafes are the vision of Jon Underwood to keep the conversation welcoming and free from personal debate. Attending Death Cafes brings you into a space that allows for an exchange of ideas without the pressure of conforming. \nSome Death Cafes ask for donations. Consequently\, if you feel the need to donate\, please donate directly to this Death Cafe\, or directly to DeathCafe.com. \nLearn more about the Death Cafes hosted by Mel here.
URL:https://lastactsoflove.com/event/solana-beach-death-cafe-2/
LOCATION:Solana Beach\, CA\, CA\, 92075\, United States
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SUMMARY:San Diego Virtual Death Cafe
DESCRIPTION:The San Diego Virtual Death Cafe is a safe place to share your interest in the subject of dying and death. Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts\, ask questions\, and hear what others say? At this Death Cafe\, we welcome all opinions and topics\, provided they follow a few rules that keep the discussions safe and accessible. \nThe History of Death Cafes\nDeath Cafes are an international phenomenon. Jon Underwood founded Death Cafes in 2011 in London\, England.  Jon’s vision was to create a space where people could talk about death over tea and cake. The cafes welcome all perspectives. Jon knew that creating a space where people knew there was no agenda\, no speakers\, nor promotions created an environment that nurtured organic conversation. \nAfter Jon died from cancer in 2017\, his family and friends continued Death Cafe as a tribute to his life’s work. To this day\, Death Cafes remain free to attend and free from pre-planned discussion.  All Death Cafe hosts agree to host as volunteers and to follow the guidelines set by Jon. \nThe History of The San Diego Virtual Death Cafe\nIn March 2020\, the state of California declared a state of emergency due to a novel human coronavirus that was highly infectious and deadly to vulnerable populations. People were required to avoid congregating in person. Schools\, churches\, libraries\, and cafes were closed. \nI received an email from Death Cafe hosts\, Mits Tomita and Frank Stefano\, asking if I wanted to be part of an online Death Cafe. I accepted the invitation\, and we hosted our first San Diego Virtual Death Cafe in April of 2020. At first\, it was difficult to navigate the technology required to host successfully. We had many hiccups and a “Zoom Bomb” or two that helped us learn how to be better hosts. \nEventually\, Mits’ schedule could no longer accommodate the time and day that worked for our attendees. Frank and I continued to co-host on the fourth Wednesday of every month. In the end\, Frank decided to hand me the reins\, and I continue hosting to this day.
URL:https://lastactsoflove.com/event/san-diego-virtual-death-cafe-4/
LOCATION:San Diego Virtual Death Cafe\, CA\, 92024\, United States
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SUMMARY:Nathan Kottkamp Founder of National Healthcare Decisions Day- SDCCC April Speaker
DESCRIPTION:SDCCC’s April Speaker is Nathan Kottkamp\, Founder of National Healthcare Decisions Day\nJoin SDCCC on Thursday\, April 23rd\, at 3 PM for a very special speaker this month\, Nathan Kottkamp\, the founder of National Healthcare Decisions Day\, April 16. This year celebrates twenty years since the movement was initiated and 18 years of national involvement. \nWhat is SDCCC?\nThe San Diego Coalition for Compassionate Care (SDCCC) was founded in 2016 after obtaining a grant from the California Health Care Foundation (CHFD) to expand the mission of the Coalition for Compassionate Care of California (CCCC).  The mission of the CCCC is to standardize the use and implementation of the Physicians Order for Life Sustaining Treatment (POLST) \nWhat is National Healthcare Decisions Day?\nNational Healthcare Decisions Day (NHDD) was founded in 2008 by Virginia attorney Nathan Kottkamp. The goal of NHDD is to get every adult aged 18 to fill out an Advance Healthcare Directive. The idea came to Nate when he filled out his first Advance Healthcare Directive (AHD) at the age of twenty. In 2006\, realizing that many of his peers and elders in the community were unaware of its importance\, he started working with hospitals in his home state of Virginia\, educating healthcare providers. The event was so successful that in 2008\, he brought it to the national stage. \nToday\, we celebrate NHDD on April 16th to follow Tax Day on April 15th. After all\, the two unavoidable life events are death and taxes. And we have to pay our taxes first. \nWhat is an Advance Healthcare Directive?\n\nAn Advance Health Care Directive (AHD) is a written\, signed\, and witnessed document that outlines who will speak for you when you can’t speak for yourself. It details your wishes around certain life-sustaining treatments and organ donation options.  There are a variety of  AHD to choose from\, including the State Probate form. \nUnlike the POLST form\, AHD doesn’t require a medical professional’s signature to be valid. It’s a document that can be revised at any time. I recommend using the Five D’s to determine if your AHD still meets your needs. The Five D’s are: \n\nDeath: Has your agent or alternative agent died?\nDivorce: Is your ex-spouse your agent? Are you comfortable leaving them to speak for you when you’re unable to speak for yourself?\nDiagnosis: Have you or your agent been diagnosed with a life-limiting diagnosis? Or a neurological disorder like dementia?\nDistance: Have you or your agent moved out of state or country? If so\, this is a good time to revisit your AHD agent and alternative agents.\nDecember: It’s helpful to revisit your AHD each December to make sure it’s up-to-date with your values\, medical advancements\, and current lifestyle.
URL:https://lastactsoflove.com/event/nathan-kottkamp-founder-national-healthcare-decisions-day/
LOCATION:San Diego Coalition for Compassionate Care\, 900 Cantebury Place Room 300\, Encinitas\, CA\, 920025\, United States
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SUMMARY:Ask An End-Of-Life Doula
DESCRIPTION:Learn how to have “Compassionate Conversations” about end-of-life issues in this discussion group. End-of-Life Doulas Mel McClave and Eva Navarrete come together to help you navigate the topic with your loved ones. Between us\, we have decades of experience in teaching people how to broach the topic of mortality. \nEva and I started these dual language workshops for the 2024 World Design Capital‘s “Imagining a Better Death” initiative. Our “Compassionate Conversations/ Conversaciones Compasivas” end-of-life workshops were so successful that we decided to incorporate them into our public outreach. We now hold regularly scheduled \nAsk An End-Of-Life Doula\nend-of-life discussions at the Vista Senior Center and other international and domestic venues. \nUsing a variety of resources\, we discuss your end-of-life options to help you make the best choice for yourself and your family.  Our sponsors include Compassion & Choices\, the San Diego Coalition for Compassionate Care\, and the Vista Senior Center.
URL:https://lastactsoflove.com/event/ask-an-end-of-life-doula/
LOCATION:Vista Senior Center\, 1400 Vale Terrace\, Vista\, CA\, 92084\, United States
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SUMMARY:Orange County Virtual Death Cafe
DESCRIPTION:The Orange County Virtual Death Cafe is the place to be to immerse yourself in a lively discussion around dying and death. Anyone curious about dying and death is welcome. \nAre you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts\, ask questions\, and hear what others say? At our long-running  O.C. Virtual Death Cafe\, we welcome all opinions and topics\, provided the guidelines that keep the discussions safe and accessible are respected. Please RSVP to: melissa@lastactsoflove.com for the Zoom link or more information. \nThe History of the OC Virtual Death Cafe\nSouthern California resident and end-of-life doula Linda Barnard co-hosted the first Orange County Death Cafe in October 2021 with veteran San Diego Death Cafe host\, Dr. Mitsuo “Mits” Tomita. What started as a mid-COVID monthly meetup has continued to flourish as a virtual monthly discussion. Linda continued to host the Orange County Death Cafe after Mits was unavailable to co-host monthly. Linda decided to step down as host in September 2024. \nIn October 2024\, Linda asked San Diego Virtual Death Cafe host Melissa ‘Mel’ McClave to take over hosting duties of the Orange County Death Cafe. Mel made the Orange County Death Cafe a permanent virtual meeting and changed the name to OC Virtual Death Cafe. \nDeathwork in Orange County\, California\nFor over 100 years\, the residents of Orange County\, California\, have thoughtfully cared for their dead. Orange County is home to about one million residents\, all of whom will die. The ethnic diversity of the county requires a thoughtful approach to cultural rituals and modern legacy options. \nLeisure World in Seal Beach and Laguna Hills are Orange County’s premier retirement communities. Residents of Leisure World buy into their community knowing that it will be their home at the end of life. Residents are serviced by nearby mortuaries and cemeteries. \nIn May 2024\, Barbara McMurray founded the Orange County Deathworkers Alliance to bring together traditional and new-age practitioners of end-of-life care providers. The alliance currently includes caregiver services\, end-of-life doulas\, physicians\, memorial artists\, and authors who write extensively on end-of-life topics. \nO.C. Virtual Death Cafe
URL:https://lastactsoflove.com/event/orange-county-virtual-death-cafe-2/
LOCATION:Orange County Virtual Death Cafe\, United States
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